Love What you Have, Before Life Teaches You to Love What You Lost – Relationship
Recently, I saw a WhatsApp good morning message
“Love what you have, before life teaches you to love what you lost”.
– a powerful statement in two aspects: Relations and Health
I wonder how many people would have understood the in-depth meaning of this message, of those who happened to see that.
But, I see this as a very powerful statement which everyone of us should understand in its true form. I look at this in two aspects:
1. The relations, our loved ones
2. Health
First, let me share some thoughts on why I say that this is a powerful statement: Love our relations, people who are living with us and around us, before they are lost!
One of my close relatives recently lost her father. Actually her father was sick due to aging and was bedridden for more than a year. She had visited him a few times and been there with him for a day or two during that period. As she is working in a private organization as a senior officer she couldn’t avail leave often, particularly for a longer period. But, she is feeling bad now for not having been there with her father for some more days when he was sick. She wishes to have taken care of her father a little more by being with him and assisting him in his last days. What is the use of feeling bad now? How much ever she regrets whether she could do that!
Can we go back in time and start a new beginning? At Least we can start now and make a new ending, right? I suggested to her not to feel bad for what had (not!)happened in the past and that at least she can take care of her mother now to get satisfaction !
I know a son in my friend’s family who ignored his father when he was alive and after death, he used to pray to him offering all the things he liked. He is working abroad with his wife and children. He was not taking care of his parents who lived here in India. His parents were longing to see their son and his family. Now, after his father’s death, he is performing all poojas and prayers. Every year, on the death anniversary of his father, he performs the rituals where he keeps all those things his father liked(!), the basundhi, the special mixture and even he keeps chapathi which his father liked very much!
What are the thoughts going on in your mind now?
I have even witnessed a pathetic situation where one of my cousins lost her husband suddenly due to a severe cardiac arrest. They both, all along their life, had some or the other issues, misunderstandings and arguments almost every day. She cried and cried saying, she would have lived her life in a better way, if she had had some understanding with him, she should have done this, should have done that etc..
If only she had known that he would leave her forever she would have not fought with him …. Who will know that, tell me!
If we look around we might see many such people, what do you say, maybe we are knowingly or unknowingly on that list! Fighting with mother, misunderstanding with spouse, arguments with sister/brother, even with son/daughter. How can a parent have issues with their own son or daughter, can’t believe it, right? I personally know a parent who is not willing to talk to their son!
Give a thought about this and start loving your loved ones while they are with you. Develop the right understanding which will help you in achieving this state of living, loving our dear ones and always being happy!
Let me share why we should take care of our health while we are healthy and how we can keep good health in my next blog as that itself is an important one that deserves a separate blog!
